MilITARY WIFE ISN’T YOUR ONLY TITLE

   Being a Wife has to be one of my Favorite titles, next to Mom. But I’d be lying if I said “Military Wife” has that same effect on my heart. Yeah I’m sure there’s a lot of people looking right now shocked with the “OMG how dare she say that OUT LOUD (yes out loud because you’ve honestly said it in your head almost every day since you’ve been a Military Wife! Don’t worry your secret's safe with me). But I digress! Yes, being a Military Wife does mean I get to travel and to some beautiful places at that. Yes, being a Military Wife means I get Full Coverage Insurance. Yes, being a Military Wife means I get to enjoy the benefits of carrying a Military ID while shopping lol. Yes, my husband has guaranteed income. AND YES I KNOW HOW BLESSED I AM! 

   What I also KNOW is how HUMAN I am and how “Military Wife” isn’t the only title to describe me as a person. Being a Wife PERIOD is a title on its own and it’s hard for people, including yourself, to see anything else in you sometimes. But I’m here to tell you, I GET IT! After our most recent move to Wiesbaden, Germany and growing through the changes of relocating Internationally, I decided to come and give other Military Wives HOPE and to tell them YOU ARE NOT ALONE in those feelings. 

   While we were stationed on Fort Gordon, I had done the one thing women live to do EVERY DAY! I found my Happy Space. I found what made me happy outside of being a Mom, A Wife, A Daughter, A Sibling, A Friend and all the other titles I wear proudly. I got up from Prayer one night and seriously said out loud “I’m going to start AND finish this next mission. Pregnancy won’t stop this show. It’s MY time” I went and got my Real Estate License, cried Happy Tears and called and told My Husband “Our lives bout to change forever, watch me work.” And that’s exactly what I did from that day forward WORKED. I worked my butt off and this time I worked out of passion and love for what I was doing. For the next 3 years, I had finally found the one thing Sharonda did for HERSELF “Help people find their Happy Place.” 

   THEN CAME GERMANY! I came to Wiesbaden with all the normal mixed feelings we all experience when relocating with your family and away from your bigger family lol. I was excited, nervous, and screaming “I’m not going”, all the way until the day we left lol. The one thing that had me on edge the most NOBODY else understood. I would talk to another Military Wife and even some of them wouldn’t understand. I had a friend say “Oh man I guess I never had this issue because I just live my life around our Military Life. I don’t know who I am outside of a Military Wife. I’ll figure that out when he’s done.” Listen I’m the last one to judge, I can just say that’s not me and being in Germany not helping people find their Happy Place definitely does NOT make me happy. I can absolutely still be involved with Real Estate, Look at Me Now, Your Favorite Mom Realtor as a Referral Agent. The hands-on experience with my clients is just NOT the same (IYKYK). 

   Finding my happiness was challenging, but again, NOT impossible. Tap into your skills Sharonda. Tap into what you love doing. Tap into the side of you that God can continue to use. You love helping people, you can still do that. Allow the Real Estate side to go on the Referral route and allow your other skills to shine. You’re not defined by one title and you for dang sure not blessed with only one talent/skill. Act like it! 

   So while transitioning from one place to the next can be a bit of a mission with family, new schools, new friends, new home, new job and whatever else; it also brings a new YOU and that’s possible. You CAN and you WILL find your happy place again. You will tap into your new purpose. Try to embrace and celebrate your life for everything that it IS and not what you believe it SHOULD be. From one Military Wife PCSing and trying to find her way again, God got us!!!